Tame your anger

Shakun Gulati

Revenge resides in each one of us in a subtle form. When wrong is done unto us, mind constantly goads to take revenge. But using our intellect if we visualize the process of taking revenge, we would realize that getting angry not only ‘gives’ pain to our opponent, we ‘take’ pain in turn as well. The art of living lies in ‘Badla na lo, badal kar dikhao’. (Do not take revenge, but transform yourself). We want to change the world whereas the need is to change ourselves. There is no need to change the environment, just develop the habit of absorbing things with peaceful mind.

Then alone we will emerge winner even against odd circumstances. ‘I have to remain stable whatever the other person says’ should become the foundation of our day. If our thought pattern changes, anger will automatically take a backseat. It becomes much easier to handle our anger tantrums. Just give it a try. Many of my friends reason that they never get angry rather they are made to get angry by people around. Is the whole world to be abolished so that I do not get angry? Nay. I have just to take an antidote of anger – that is peace. There is no need to cover the whole earth with leather, put a piece of it under your soul and we have stopped dust from spoiling our feet. When we act with anger, we create an environment of anger in the home. This negative energy persists, like a toxic chemical in the home long after the actual fight is over. Our children, at the most receptive end, are then breathing air filled with violence and negativity. We wonder why our world is becoming more violent each day, is not a mystery. Brahmkumaris give a beautiful remedy for peaceful living. Resolve before starting the day, “I am a peaceful, loving being. No situation or a person can make me angry.” During the day, after ever hour, take a pause and revise this sentence, “I am bigger than the situation. I am protected. The angry waves cannot touch my oceanic peace. I am a loving peaceful being.” And see yourself transformed in a day.

(As told to Geeta Anandi)